What a lady should not do when meeting a new guy


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When a lady meets a man, especially one that
she likes, what to do and what not to do are
the dilemmas she faces.
So many things can go wrong from the first
day and so many things can go right as well,
it just depends on how she reacts to the
situation.
I came across a piece by a psychologist,
Adejoro Olumofins and it’s worth the read,
because some of these mistakes listed are
things most ladies do, and its results aren’t
always pretty.
10 things ladies shouldn’t do when they meet
a new guy
1. DON’T TAKE YOUR FRIENDS ALONG WHEN
HE INVITES YOU ON A DATE
Some Nigerian Ladies for some reason that is
beyond me take their friends on a date with a
guy they just met. I can attest to this because
it has happened to me before. No positive
outcome can come out of this but some of the
negatives are:
(i) The guy will be turned off
(ii) He may start liking or prefer one of your
friends to you
(iii) He will never get the opportunity to know
you as much as he wants because of the 3rd
wheel
(iv) He may think you don’t have a mind of
your own
(v) He may turn you and your friends back
2. DON’T GO TO HIS HOUSE UNANNOUNCED
One thing a man hates the most is for you to
show up at his house unannounced or invited
especially when he just met you. That’s a “NO
NO” because he’ll just think you’re a stalker
or a psycho and he’ll act out. Some ladies out
of emotions and lack of trust show up at a
guy’s house, what they don’t know is they are
pushing him away or giving him reasons to
leave.
3. DON’T ASK HIM FOR MONEY
Some ladies meet a guy and in less than 2/3
weeks the demands start rolling in. Please pay
for my hair, buy me birkin bag for my birthday,
my rent is due, or plain & simply, I need 500k
or 1 million. Every guy would take off when
they meet a lady like this. They would say
she’s opportunistic and compare her to the
ladies who are not asking them for a kobo or
dime.
4. DON’T COMPARE HIM TO YOUR EX OR
TALK ABOUT YOUR EX, ONLY IF HE
REQUESTS
Some Ladies compare and contrast their new
guy to their old one, not only in their mind but
to his face as well. They say things like my
Ladi used to take me to KFC you’re taking me
to Mr Biggs, Jide bought me Prada for my
birthday last year you’re buying me Zara.
Guys hate being compared, it punctures their
ego so allow him be the Boss and take you
out, don’t compare or dictate terms of dates or
gifts.
5. DON’T BE TOO QUICK TO UPLOAD HIS
PICTURES ON INSTAGRAM, FACEBOOK,
TWITTER (SOCIAL MEDIA)
Ladies, you just met a guy, a new flame, the
relationship is at its early stages, there’s still
so much you don’t know about him why
upload his pictures for the world to see? The
relationship may not even be defined yet. By
doing this, you’re giving people room to
influence and alter your infant relationship.
Also you don’t want to be like those people
who have to cleanse their Instagram and
Facebook pages of a guy’s picture every 6
months because of a breakup.

6. DON’T WEAR SEE THROUGH OR EXPOSING
OUTFITS ON YOUR FIRST DATE
Guys are very Impulsive and instinctive by
nature, by wearing a dress or gown that’s
says “SEX” that’s all that will be on his mind
and nothing else. He won’t want to hear
anything about you anymore; your personality,
your job, your family etc. All he’ll be thinking
about is how he’ll take you to his house or
hotel room because you’ve sent him a signal
saying you want sex.
7. DON’T BORE HIM WITH YOUR FAMILY
ISSUES
Some ladies carry their personal or family
problems out with them on dates, instead of
making waves and progress with their new
guy, they talk about how their house got burnt
last week, or how their friend always borrows
money or clothes from them, or how they hate
their sisters or brothers. All these are TMI
(Too Much Information) Focus on him and let
him Focus on you. Don’t allow extraneous
variables creep in and take over your
conversation.
8. DON’T TALK ABOUT MARRIAGE OR THE
FUTURE
The number one thing guys are scared of after
God is Commitment or Marriage so if you just
met a guy and you’re already talking about
marriage or children he is definitely going to
take off and say you’re putting him under
pressure and he can’t keep up. Let him be the
one to bring it up not you because he’ll say
you’re desperate.
9. DON’T PRY ABOUT HIS POCKET, EARNINGS
OR THE CAR HE DRIVES
A friend of mine went on a Blind Date at
Radisson (Lagos) to meet a Lady who his
cousin had introduced him to through
Instagram. He complained he had not even
ordered a drink when his date asked him:
What car do you drive? That was her first
question. “What do you drive?” Most guys
would be offended by this and even have a
negative impression about you immediately,
because a guy would wonder do u like me or
my car?
10. DON’T GET DRUNK ON YOUR FIRST
OUTING WITH HIM
Firstly Ladies, this is for your own safety; a lot
of ladies have been taken advantage of
because they were intoxicated. You also don’t
want to embarrass yourself and say or do
things that you can’t defend or verify.
Source:elcrema .com

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