There is usually a good feeling that comes
with the New Year; everyone somehow expects
a change; probably in their relationship, some
things in their life, career and many other
things. However, the truth remains, if you
don’t consciously work hard to improve on so
many things in your life or relationship, it
would never improve.
You can make 2015 a better year in your
relationship, not by wishing but by avoiding
many mistakes couples make year in, year out.
8 costly mistakes to avoid this year
1. NOT PAYING ATTENTION
Everyone loves attention, and when it’s
attention from someone you love then that’s a
big plus. Not paying attention to your partner
would gradually lead to the demise of the
relationship. Paying attention means you care
for your partner and you’re ready to be there
for that person, a lack of it shows the
opposite. Don’t be too busy and forget to pay
attention to that partner—it hurts.
2. JUMPING INTO CONCLUSIONS
This is also another terrible mistake couples
are fond of that leads to fights and quarrels in
a relationship. Rather than jumping into
conclusion about your partner’s motive or
action, it’s best you ask your partner directly.
Jumping into conclusion would only lead to
more heated arguments and less love; do you
really want that for your relationship?
3. UNNECESSARY FIGHTING
Self-control is a good virtue, and it’s so
surprising that it’s lacking in so many
relationships. Some couples tend to fight at
the slightest instance and for unjust reasons.
Some relationship partners can’t even watch a
2hour movie together without having an
argument—it’s bad, unnecessary and uncalled
4. NOT WORKING ON YOUR FLAWS
We all have parts of our lives that we should
improve on, and failing to do that is a costly
mistake which can harm a relationship
permanently; it could be anger, selfishness,
intolerance, malice, nagging, being too critical
and the rest of it. Check your flaws, work on
yourself, because not doing so is a huge
mistake on its own.
5. COMPLACENCY IN THE ROMANCE
Romance has a lot to do with the passion of a
relationship; if you kill the romance, you kill
the passion and if the passion is dead, even
love might not be left in that relationship.
Make every moment with your partner count;
don’t get complacent with being romantic and
passionate about your relationship.
6. TRYING TO CONTROL THE RELATIONSHIP
This is bad! This is bad! This is bad! Taking
control of the relationship means subduing
your partner and that’s a wrong thing to do if
you want your relationship to blossom. Many
people tend to be control freaks even without
knowing—you might get your partner tired of
you with such an attitude.
7. NOT BEING APPRECIATIVE
Everything our partner does for us should
always be appreciated; special emphasis on
everything. Like we all know, showing
appreciation would even make our partner do
more, besides that, showing appreciation
would make your partner love and appreciate
you the more. Waiting till your partner brings
the White House to you before you appreciate
that person is a terrible act.
8. TRYING TO CHANGE A PARTNER
I would always say this; no one can actually
change a person, the only thing you can do is
influence that person. Trying to change your
partner is a bad tactic that almost always
9. NOT LISTENING TO OUR PARTNERS
A relationship is better, it’s more enjoyable
when both partner listen to each other and
care about each other’s thoughts and put it
into consideration as well. When you don’t
have listening ear for your partner and your
partner does the same, your relationship
These 9 mistakes are common mistakes which
couples make in their marriage and
relationships; these mistakes aren’t ordinary
as they can ruin a relationship—they are
costly, avoid them and have a better
relationship this year.