Marriage killing mistakes women make


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I can’t tell you how many unhappy husbands
I’ve seen in my office over the past decade or
so. They present with all kinds of issues—from
infidelity, to in-law troubles, and everything in
between.
Yet, despite the variety of marriage problems
that can arise, there are some complaints that
are so prevalent and common that they
warrant being singled out.
Below are eight of the most common
complaints that unhappy husbands make
about their wives. Read them. Believe them.
Stop them:
1. You’re a grump.
When you speak to your husband, your voice
tone is full of negativity, contempt and
criticism. If he tries to express a concern or
complaint about the marriage, you rise up in
angry defensiveness and throw the blame back
on him instead of hearing him out.
2. You’re a nag.
If your husband has a free moment, you
pounce on him and order him to fix something
around the house. If he goes out with friends,
you text him incessantly, asking when he’ll be
home. Basically, you’re a matrimonial version
of the micro-managing boss.
3. You’re a cold fish in bed.
If he flashes you a flirtatious wink, you roll
your eyes. If he reaches for you in bed, you
turn your back to him. On those rare
occasions you do give in and have sex, you lie
there and stare at the ceiling, waiting for it to
be over and sapping all the fun out of it.
4. You’re a frump.
Whether you’ve stopped exercising or started
wearing sweatpants, you’ve let yourself go and
lost your energy and enthusiasm for life. To be
honest, this isn’t a top complaint that I hear
from men; however, a woman who feels
unattractive often withdraws—emotionally and
physically—from her marriage. And that is
something that husbands do complain about.
5. You’re a “Mommy,” and nothing else.
You get way more excited about a “Mommy &
Me” playdate than a romantic evening with
your husband. Just keep in mind that a child-
centered marriage isn’t a marriage at all; it’s
just a daycare.
6. You’re an alpha parent.
As the leader of the parenting pack, you snap
at your husband every time he tries to be a
dad or parent his children in the way he sees
fit. As a result, you rob your children of a
father’s care and discipline, and you drive a
wedge between you and your husband.
7. You’re thankless.
Whether your husband has put in major
overtime at work or spent his entire long-
weekend building you that backyard deck you
want, you take his efforts for granted and fail
to show appreciation for anything he does for
you or your family.
8. You’re (yawn) boring.
You don’t have any interests or hobbies
outside the marriage or home (no, Facebook
isn’t a hobby). That makes you predictable
and bland company who never has anything
interesting to add to a conversation. You
should get a life, to put it plainly.
If you’re worried that the passion in your
marriage is starting to subside, don’t panic.
Instead, take a good, hard look at your own
behavior. How can you bring more positivity
and romance into your marriage? How can you
make your husband feel more appreciated and
desired? How can you build him up as a
loving, competent parent?
How can you make him happy?
Believe it or not, making your husband happy
is the surest way to motivate him to make you
happy. Like attracts like. Loving, appreciative
behavior attracts loving, appreciative behavior.
Positivity and enthusiasm attracts positivity
and enthusiasm. Fun and affection attracts
fun and affection. You get the idea.
Of course, it takes two to tango and men need
to do their part, too. That being said, there’s
nothing stopping you from taking the lead and
doing what you can to make your marriage a
happier, sexier and stronger one … starting
today.

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