10ways to make a relationship work


kjhgLove that lasts is the result of partners
embedding themselves in each other’s brains
in a
positive way. Memory circuits and pleasure
get all wound up together so that the other
person
becomes integral to the very structure of your
brain, and you become part of the structure of
his. Here are some steps toward making your
love last:
1. Take Your Partner’s Breath Away.
Do something amazingly thoughtful and out of
the ordinary and try to incorporate an
element of surprise to it: a loving note tucked
into a pocket. A special dinner on an
otherwise ordinary night. A playlist made up
with his favorite songs. These thoughtful
acts will embed you in his memory.
2. Do Something Special on a Regular Basis.
Call him every day just to touch base for a few
minutes. Make his favorite meal once a
week. Once he begins to expect these things,
you will always be close to his awareness.
3. Engage in Lots of Eye Gazing.
New couples seem to do this naturally, but
don’t drop this strong bonding behavior just
because the relationship has progressed. This
is one way to keep the romance alive and
is especially powerful when making love.
4. Learn what Pleases Your Partner Sexually.
Make it clear that his pleasure is your
pleasure, and you want to discover everything
about what turns him on. He’ll be happy to
have you experiment with him.
5. Teach Your Partner what You Like.
Likewise, making you happy will make him feel
good. And research shows that the
sexual pleasure of one partner increases the
pleasure of the other partner.
6. Boost Lasting Love with Sexual Novelty.
When things get humdrum and routine, there
is not going to be as much of a hormonal/
neurotransmitter reaction, and arousal is
lessened. While you don’t have to break out
the whips and chains, a little novelty can
increase anticipation, which means that more
hormones are secreted. The result? Hotter,
more thrilling sex for both of you.
7. Do something Edgy.
If you get your partner’s heart rate up, he may
associate the feeling of excitement with
you and he may develop more powerful
feelings for you. Going on a roller-coaster ride,
taking a balloon trip, shooting the rapids—
anything with a touch of danger to it—can
make him fall more deeply in love with you.
8. Do Something Great for Someone Your
Partner Loves.
If you show kindness and love for someone he
loves, you will earn major points. When
you enter a relationship, you also enter a
relationship with all his family and friends.
Show him that the people who are important
to him are important to you.
9. Summarize and Immortalize Loving
Moments.
Don’t be afraid to give voice to your love. Tell
him how you feel. Write a loving note or
poem. Lovers have been doing this from the
beginning of time because it works.
10. Boost the Chemicals of Love.
There are many brain chemicals that go into
the feeling of love and attachment.
Oxytocin is known as the bonding, trust, and
cuddle hormone. Oxytocin is enhanced
by watching romantic movies together, holding
hands, cuddling, and long, loving eye
contact. Women usually have more oxytocin
than men, but according to one study, a
man’s level of oxytocin goes up 500 percent
after making love. Being too busy to make
love pushes couples apart.

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