What a lady should not do when meeting a new guy


When a lady meets a man, especially one that
she likes, what to do and what not to do are
the dilemmas she faces.
So many things can go wrong from the first
day and so many things can go right as well,
it just depends on how she reacts to the
I came across a piece by a psychologist,
Adejoro Olumofins and it’s worth the read,
because some of these mistakes listed are
things most ladies do, and its results aren’t
always pretty.
10 things ladies shouldn’t do when they meet
a new guy
Some Nigerian Ladies for some reason that is
beyond me take their friends on a date with a
guy they just met. I can attest to this because
it has happened to me before. No positive
outcome can come out of this but some of the
negatives are:
(i) The guy will be turned off
(ii) He may start liking or prefer one of your
friends to you
(iii) He will never get the opportunity to know
you as much as he wants because of the 3rd
(iv) He may think you don’t have a mind of
your own
(v) He may turn you and your friends back
One thing a man hates the most is for you to
show up at his house unannounced or invited
especially when he just met you. That’s a “NO
NO” because he’ll just think you’re a stalker
or a psycho and he’ll act out. Some ladies out
of emotions and lack of trust show up at a
guy’s house, what they don’t know is they are
pushing him away or giving him reasons to
Some ladies meet a guy and in less than 2/3
weeks the demands start rolling in. Please pay
for my hair, buy me birkin bag for my birthday,
my rent is due, or plain & simply, I need 500k
or 1 million. Every guy would take off when
they meet a lady like this. They would say
she’s opportunistic and compare her to the
ladies who are not asking them for a kobo or
Some Ladies compare and contrast their new
guy to their old one, not only in their mind but
to his face as well. They say things like my
Ladi used to take me to KFC you’re taking me
to Mr Biggs, Jide bought me Prada for my
birthday last year you’re buying me Zara.
Guys hate being compared, it punctures their
ego so allow him be the Boss and take you
out, don’t compare or dictate terms of dates or
Ladies, you just met a guy, a new flame, the
relationship is at its early stages, there’s still
so much you don’t know about him why
upload his pictures for the world to see? The
relationship may not even be defined yet. By
doing this, you’re giving people room to
influence and alter your infant relationship.
Also you don’t want to be like those people
who have to cleanse their Instagram and
Facebook pages of a guy’s picture every 6
months because of a breakup.

Guys are very Impulsive and instinctive by
nature, by wearing a dress or gown that’s
says “SEX” that’s all that will be on his mind
and nothing else. He won’t want to hear
anything about you anymore; your personality,
your job, your family etc. All he’ll be thinking
about is how he’ll take you to his house or
hotel room because you’ve sent him a signal
saying you want sex.
Some ladies carry their personal or family
problems out with them on dates, instead of
making waves and progress with their new
guy, they talk about how their house got burnt
last week, or how their friend always borrows
money or clothes from them, or how they hate
their sisters or brothers. All these are TMI
(Too Much Information) Focus on him and let
him Focus on you. Don’t allow extraneous
variables creep in and take over your
The number one thing guys are scared of after
God is Commitment or Marriage so if you just
met a guy and you’re already talking about
marriage or children he is definitely going to
take off and say you’re putting him under
pressure and he can’t keep up. Let him be the
one to bring it up not you because he’ll say
you’re desperate.
A friend of mine went on a Blind Date at
Radisson (Lagos) to meet a Lady who his
cousin had introduced him to through
Instagram. He complained he had not even
ordered a drink when his date asked him:
What car do you drive? That was her first
question. “What do you drive?” Most guys
would be offended by this and even have a
negative impression about you immediately,
because a guy would wonder do u like me or
my car?
Firstly Ladies, this is for your own safety; a lot
of ladies have been taken advantage of
because they were intoxicated. You also don’t
want to embarrass yourself and say or do
things that you can’t defend or verify.
Source:elcrema .com

say no to drugs. Kwaw Kesse


Ghana’s King of Street, Kwaw Kesse,
affectionately called “Abodam” has appealed
to Ghanaians to abstain from narcotic drugs
in order to avoid any jail term.
In an exclusive interview on Peace FM’s
Entertainment Review with host Kwame Adjetia
Adjei, Kwaw Kesse bemoaned his remand in
the Kumasi Central Prisons, stressing that life
in prison should not be desired.
According to him, the number of days and
weeks he spent in prison taught him a lesson
that “prison is not a place for a human being
to be.”
This he explained is due to the harsh living
conditions in Ghana’s prisons.
He recounted that while in prison, he was
denied the privilege of having a sound sleep
but for certain individuals who adored him as
a “music icon” in the nation; he would have
also missed his bathing sessions.
He also told the host that the situation in
prison transcend human imagination since
some in-mates have to squeeze themselves a
room, which was initially made for 10 people,
but houses about 74 people; just to catch
some sleep.
Abodam further expressed worry over the way
of living in the prison, asserting that the in-
mates as well as the warders are equally
prone to some chronic diseases.
He therefore appealed to government and
human right activists in the country to ensure
that the prisons are renovated and kept proper
for the prisoners.
“If the government can, it should keep that
place clean a bit because it is human beings
that are there. They’re not animals, so they
can also feel a bit at home.”
He added that during his incarceration in the
Kumasi Central Prison in Ashanti Region, he
advised the in-mates to let their experiences
in prison reform their conduct when they come
back into the society.
“I was telling them that you people should try,
when you’re set free, to do something that can
help you,” he said.
Kwaw Kesse also wants the youth and the
entire nation to say “no” to consumption of
narcotic drugs.
“I will use my experience to preach to the
people out there that even if it’s ice water you
will sell to earn a living, because where I went
had several armed robbers; others too do not
know what they did to be incarcerated but if
they can, they should try and stay away from

Shatta Wale Rendered A Fake Apology ,Kaakie


Female dancehall musician Kaakie, has
spoken publicly about an apology rendered to
her by Shatta Wale, after the later hurled
insults on her over an award she won in 2013.
Rendered some two years ago, Wale
apologised for a tirade of invectives he hurled
at the young lady after she beat him to an
award at the 2013 Ghana Music Awards.
Kaakie, who was good under the year in
review, won the award for Reggae Dancehall
Song of the Year for the song ‘Tofee Pon
Tongue’, much to Wale’s chagrin, who was
hoping to win with ‘Shatta City’.
He subsequently took to social media and
launched a scathing attack on her person – in
a way many thought was uncouth.
He posted: “F*** Kaakie who can’t even write
her own music and f*** her smelling p****… I
know how they did this. But trust me, we know
how to handle this.”
He later apologized – and released a song in
July 2013 to validate his plea for forgiveness.
She refused to comment on it publicly until
she was asked on radio this morning.
Kaakie, who just returned from a well
patronized show in Gabon, said she thinks the
apology lacks an element of sincerity, insisting
it feels awkward to go to a place and hear the
song being played all over again.
She told Pluzz FM ‘s entertainment show,
Friday that a more fitting apology would be
for Wale to tell her in the face about how truly
sorry he was.

Up close with Naa Ashokor


Brainy and sexy actress, Naa Ashorkor, on
Thursday, opened up as never before in a no-
holds-barred interview with NEWS-ONE and
makes rather interesting revelations about her
life, upbringing, career, core values, trials and
her future prospects.
Naa is host of Starr FM’s mid-morning
programme, ‘The Zone’, and also runs her own
TV show, ‘Tales from the Powder Room’, on
She has starred in some of Ghana’s best
contemporary movies including ‘A Letter From
Adam’, ‘Checkmate’, ‘Adams Apple’, ‘Perfect
Picture’ and ‘Scorned’.
NEWS-ONE asked Naa Ashorkor about her
greatest achievements:
What is the biggest thing you have achieved?
When people ask me about achievements and
how many awards I have won, I have not won
many but I have won some. I really don’t
count awards and nominations as
achievements. What I count are the people
who feel I am making a positive difference in
their lives.
For example, I never knew it was possible to
receive phone calls from facebook until two
nights ago when a girl called me around 1am.
You receive calls at 1am?
Not exactly but I thought this one was strange
and also did not understand how it was from
facebook so I picked and the caller said she
was 29 and wanted to commit suicide but
wanted to talk to me before the act. I did not
know what to say. I listened to her and she
said she takes inspiration from me but was
tired because of family and relationship
We spoke from that time until I was ready to
prepare for work and by then she had changed
her mind. These are the things that make me
happy and I am glad I have this opportunity
to make a difference in people’s lives. Not
many people have such opportunities in this
Are you a very religious person?
Not really. Let me tell you this: In secondary
school, there was a lot of talk about witches
and all that so I used to go for prayer
meetings to protect myself from the witches.
There was this time the pastor said I should
allow God to use me to touch lives and I
thought he was talking about me becoming a
pastor’s wife or a lady pastor or something.
But in these last few weeks, I now understand I
am touching lives in a positive way.
Many look up to you as their role model.
When people say I am their role model, it
makes me want to live up to expectation. But I
say to myself, just keep doing you and the
people who look up to you need never to be
Hosting mid-morning radio in Accra is a
challenging task. Many doubted your
competence. You have proven them wrong.
What was the magic?
I would be honest with you. When Bola Ray
asked me to host Mid-morning on Starr FM, I
said no. Not ‘no’ to radio but to hosting mid-
morning because it was too big. I said I would
prefer hosting a women’s programme on
Saturday evenings or something less
challenging until I grow into it and then
maybe a year later, I take up bigger
But he said I could do it and I felt he would
not gamble with his investments and so if he
believed I could do it, why not? Then I can do
it. For the first three days, I was trying to
sound fantastic and it was a lot of mess. I
was just all over the place. After that, I
decided to relax and just be me. I’ve been a
very odd freak of people on radio and TV and I
could recite the intros of many of them. And I
attempted to do radio like I have known how
the others do it. But when I decided to be me,
laugh at my mistakes, read the LPMs like I
was reading any other sheet of paper, things
became easier for me.
There is a tendency to sound a certain way
once a microphone is set before you. TV is
audio-visual and viewers could see your
emotions but on radio, it is different and I had
to just be me. There is a hashtag on Tigo
—‘Keep Doing You’—and that was what I
decided to do. If you listen to me on radio or
anywhere else, I talk the same. Being me is
how I’ve survived and I keep growing every
You got married just when you started hosting
mid-morning radio. Double pressure; you must
be super human to have survived.
Oh I don’t think so. I just like to take
it easy
and did not pressure myself. There is pressure
on those who want to be pressured.
Sometimes you see people and they seem they
have no problems but they have huge
problems. And there are people walking
around and acting like the whole world is
coming to an end but they are only hungry
and need food. It is the attitude we adopt that
makes the difference.
When I started radio, it was challenging and I
was trying my best. I could not even
understand the consol and which button to
press when. I know music but not the names
of the musicians and yet I was to decide
which music to play. But I had a fantastic DJ
who helped me—DJ Mono.
I remember there was this guy at Airtel who
wrote a whole write-up about how I was
terrible and some even said I was a square
peg in a round hole. But I am grateful to God
it is working out.
Those who thought I would fail are changing
their minds and people now listen to me not
because there are no competitors but because
they can see I am getting better.
There are fears marriage would affect your
career adversely.
No I don’t think so. It has not. It won’t.
Before Naa became a famous person, who was
I am still all that I was—just an ordinary girl.
Primary school, I was very loud; JSS, I was a
very quiet girl; SSS, I was talking everywhere. I
was SRC vice president and secretary for my
region. I did a lot of school debates and even
won a few cups for my school and I enjoyed
I think I got to know myself better in
secondary school—the sort of person I was,
the things I like to do and the things I won’t
like to do. Before GIJ, I was in a lot of school
activities and debates. I loved to be heard and
to champion strange courses. That is what
people would remember me for.
Were you the same at the GIJ?
I was very quiet in GIJ.
But you still found something special in GIJ?
You mean in GIJ? You mean my husband? Oh
yes. I met him in GIJ. I don’t know if people
really remember me in the GIJ. For my first
three years there, I was not on TV. I started
TV in the third year and I believe that was
when some of my mates even saw me for the
first time.
You acted ‘Kabuki’ in Lydia Forson’s ‘Letter
from Adam’ and got married in the movie
which was premiered just when you got
married in real life? Was it a hype for the
Ah! You mean I got married to push
someone’s movie? It was pure coincidence
and I did not even realise the coincidence
until people started talking about it. We shot
that movie when? I can’t even remember. But
Lydia booked the Silverbird Cinemas about six
months before the premiere date. It has
nothing to do with my marriage.
How do you manage to stay away from
controversy or scandals as a showbiz person?
Well, I don’t know. Maybe my mother always
told me that if I stayed at home, I won’t get
into trouble and that has really entered my
head. She always said trouble cannot come to
you when you are in your home. It has helped
me a lot. I work with an event organising
company and it is only when we have events
that you would see me out. I feel comfortable
at home and at places where I am safe.
If you read all the stories about celebrities in
trouble, they mostly got into trouble when they
went somewhere or said something.
You are an actress, a TV presenter and a radio
presenter; which pays the most?
It depends on who you are working for that
would determine how much you are going to
get. I think acting has paid me the most and I
am looking at the biggest amount of money I
have received at a time and that came from
Would you become a movie producer someday
like your colleagues?
I am so happy they are becoming producers
because it would make our industry bigger.
But I would rather want to produce a stage
play. I love movies; they are great but I love
stage plays. They are challenging and I would
want to promote that.
Are you pregnant as reports say?
I also heard about that. It is not true. But if it
is true, I am not aware.
Anything you would want to tell your fans and
readers of this interview?
We are in an overcrowded world with too
many people competing to be seen. The best
you can be is to just be you and not try to be
anybody else. Anybody else is taken and your
best bet is to be you. Grab opportunities when
they come and never say ‘I can’t do it’. Just
try because it is only when you try that you
can say you can or cannot. But you’ve just got
to try.

Gov’t trying to retrieve SADA money


The Savannah Accelerated Development
Authority (SADA) says government is seriously
working through the Attorney General’s (AG)
Department to retrieve with interest, its funds
spent on various projects.
Angelina Mornah Domakyaareh, SADA Board
Chairperson, said the AG’s Department was
negotiating with the various partners involved
on the terms of the refund and that the Bank
of Ghana was now working out the interest
rates due.
She assured Ghanaians that under the new
Board, there would be openness and
transparency in the activities of SADA.
“We acknowledge as a new Board that SADA
had had some image problems in the past. We
may call that failings; it is a human
institution, but we the new Board having
accessed the situation, we acknowledge that
even though there has been some failings,
SADA has not failed,” Domakyaareh, stated in
an interview with the Ghana News Agency at
the press launch of the 2015 Engineering
Week Celebration and the SADA Business and
Investment Forum in Accra
She said: “The previous Board had done some
good things; we are going to continue and
build on them. The challenges that they faced
and could not overcome; we have the benefit
of hind-sight to be guided by that.
It is not our intention to repeat the short falls
that plagued the old Board.”
The Chairperson said: “So based on that we
are refocusing SADA’s mandate from direct
implementation which the institution is not
matured yet to do, to the other core mandates
which have been given to SADA by the same
act of coordinating, collaborating and
facilitating development activities in the
Northern Savannah Ecological Zone of Ghana.”
She explained further that by doing so the
Authority would be getting the maximum
impact from its activities.
On the way forward, the Chairperson said
SADA is a national agenda; coordinating a
comprehensive development agenda for five
regions – Northern, Upper East, Upper West,
the northern parts of the Brong Ahafo and
Volta; representing the Northern Half of
She, therefore, urged the private sector and
major local and international investors and
development partners to support SADA’s
development agenda for the benefit of all
She described the collaboration of SADA with
the Ghana Institute of Engineers as very
pivotal in fulfillment of the Authority’s

AG’s decision on KKD should be based on law – Lawyer


Private legal practitioner, Yaw Oppong has
said media icon, Kwesi Kyei Darkwa (KKD)
could be acquitted of the rape charge against
him if the court detects that the Attorney
General (AG) pursued the case based on other
considerations outside the law.
“When there is any doubt at all in the mind of
the judge or the court, the law is that it
should be resolved in favour of the accused
person,” he said.
He indicated when the state expresses its
intention to pursue the case without the
assistance from the plaintiff, “it should not be
made on emotions, politics or anthropological
considerations but the decision must be
informed by legal considerations.”
Last week, the 19-year-old girl who accused
KKD of rape, wrote to the court stating that
she is no longer interested in continuing with
the case.
She mentioned the “media frenzy” which
followed KKD’s arrest and the never-ending
buzz and social media posts as reasons for
her decision adding that she will be unable to
continue assisting the Police in prosecuting
the case.
The Police subsequently forwarded the letter
to the AG for advice and on Thursday, the AG
said it will continue to pursue the alleged rape
case against KKD.
Sharing his thoughts on the latest
development on Eyewitness News, Lawyer
Oppong said: “The AG and the others that she
has authorized by law to assist here to
perform that function may have a lot of
evidence that we may not be privy to and I
believe that such decisions should only be
made based on law and evidence.”
He however pointed out that if the decision by
the AG was made based on any other reason
aside the law, “the law provides a remedy and
if the necessary conditions are fulfilled, you
can then go to the Supreme Court for the
appropriate compensation to be paid to you.”
According to him, if there are other reasons,
the state prosecutors will be unable to prove
the guilt of the accused person beyond
reasonable doubt.
Lawyer Oppong expressed the hope that the
decision by the AG “has been made purely
based on legal considerations and in view of
evidence before them.”
He remarked that “it will be interesting to
follow this particular case as the evidence will
be presented to court and then we will see.”
By: Efua Idan Osam/citifmonline.com/Ghana



Big Brother Africa season 9 winner, Idris
Sultan from Tanzania who beat Nigeria’s Tayo
Faniran to win the prize money of $300,000
showed off the new home he just purchased on
Big congrats to him.

Fake HIV/AIDS Ambassador sacks Lawyer


Controversial ex HIV/AIDS ambassador, Joyce
Dzidzor Mensah, says she has parted ways
with her legal counsel over public utterances
about her mental health.
She said that she was no longer represented
by Lawyer Kojo Koranteng, and that her
decision was based on suspicions that the
lawyer was rather on an image recovery
mission for the Ghana AIDS Commission.
News broke months ago that Dzidzor said she
lied about her HIV/AIDS status for years and
had never tested positive for the disease
before working with the Ghana AIDS
commission as HIV/AIDS Ambassador.
She has since been on different media
platforms defending her actions, even though
she has received widespread criticisms by
Last week, her lawyer, Kojo Korantenf
reportedly said that his “client should not be
given the needed attention in public space
because she is suffering from trauma and
But Dzidzor told News One that he should be
According to her, “it looks like he’s doing an
image recovery for Ghana’s AIDS to make the
public to believe I am depressed; hence my
reason to come out.”
“I am not working with my lawyer anymore. I
spoke with the doctor to find out if she had
any discussion with the lawyer concerning my
health and she said she hasn’t told him that I
am depressed. We started on a good note; for
him to have come out to declare that I’m
depressed and nobody should pay attention to
me really hit me. I think he is a lawyer and he
is supposed to handle my legal issues but not
my health issues. Even the doctor hasn’t said
I’m depressed. So I don’t think we can
continue working,” she added.

Source: myjoyonline

Ghana leads search for vessel carrying stolen crude

Tuesday 20th January , 2015 6:21 am
Ghana’s Navy is leading an international force
in search of a vessel suspected to be carrying
stolen cargo from the ship hijacked by
Nigerian Pirates.
Ghanaian Security Services believe that the
pirates managed to transfer the ship’s cargo
into another vessel prior to their arrest.
Eight Nigerian pirates were arrested on
Sunday by the Eastern Naval Command in
Tema for hijacking an oil vessel in Nigeria.
The vessel, MV Mariam, was carrying about
1,500 tonnes of crude oil at the time the
pirates hijacked it.
The pirates reporttedly turned the vessel
around and entered the territorial waters of
Ghana but a tracking device which had been
fixed on the vessel enabled the owner to track
it down.
The suspected pirates are currently in the
custody of the Bureau of National
The Director of public Relation of the Ghana
Armed Forces, lieutenant Colonel Eric Aggrey-
Quarshie who disclosed this to Citi News
revealed that they have enlisted the help of
other countries to help find the stolen cargo in
the missing vessel.
“We got to the place and we realized that
cargo on board the vessel had been
transferred into another vessel and so we had
to alert our colleagues We have also alerted
the Togolese, Beninois and Nigerians to also
join the search for the stolen cargo…”

Germany and Ghana collaborates to end dumsor

Germany has pledged massive support for
Ghana’s energy and education sector, a way
of fostering bilateral ties between the two
German Chancellor, Angela Merkel revealed
this after holding a closed-door talks with
visiting Ghanaian President John Dramani
According to her, the two key areas were part
of the broader issues touched on during their
discussions and the need for support was
Government has been struggling to meet the
energy needs in the country despite various
interventions including the use of gas.
Addressing a joint press briefing the two
leaders indicated that the talks between them
centered not only on Ghana but also on
issues that affect the African continent as a
Angela Merkel affirmed how Germany is
prepared to support Ghana in the areas of
technical and vocational education and
renewable energy solutions.
She was optimistic that such support if
coordinated would yield maximum benefits
especially in the area of energy where Ghana
currently is facing huge challenges adding that
“for Ghana it is providing electricity and
electricity supplies which is of the greatest
importance and we have been talking about
making contribution towards developing
renewable energy.”
She said, “We value the partnership with
Ghana and it is a friendly one” saying “Ghana
is a good democracy and good partner in
West Africa. Our tides in the field of
Development Corporation are very close and
we will also corporate closely in the economic
On his part, President Mahama who expressed
gratitude to the Chancellor for the invitation
explained how necessary it is for Ghana to
collaborate with Germany in enhancing
technical education and Energy provision.
“On the bilateral corporation level we have
strong corporation in the area of energy and
renewable power and KFW is financing several
projects in Ghana in the way of energy. We are
working with KFW to increase the power we
get from solar energy into Ghana’s
transmission grid,” he said.
President Mahama further indicated that
Ghana is a lower income country, he was
expressed that the country is progressing into
a middle income status “and we are seeing a
strong demand for skilled professionals in
terms of technical experience and so we want
to see how vocational and technical training
can be strengthened in order that we are able
to produce more middle level manpower.”

Source: citifmonline.